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abusive thoughts, anorexic, body shaming, fat, feminism, marilyn, skinny, skinny shaming, womankind, words
A few days ago on Facebook a friend of mine posted a photo of her self in an adorable and semi revealing outfit with the caption “only a dog wants a bone, real men love curvy women who could care less about calories and know how to shut up and have fun;)”
This comment spinned me on my head, we all know about “fat shaming” we know that women are constantly being bombarded with images of women with very thin frames in advertising, in movies, on the radio.. etc,. Popular retailer Abercrombie and Fitch came under fire last year for openly admitting to being discriminatory of people with larger bodies, and we are always being told to buy the newest weight loss product, take a supplement… try an expensive program.
And maybe as backlash to all the painful and ubiquitous fat-shaming that has been endured, womankind and maybe some men, have taken to shaming skinny women.
“What is skinny shaming?” You ask, in short skinny shaming is telling women with thinner bodies that they are not “real women” “not as beautiful as curvy girls” or the worst yet they are “anorexic” Now maybe some people would argue this is not a real issue, but I know it is one. You hear the term “body positive” being thrown around quite a bit lately and what that means is that you love and take care of the body you’re in, you embrace your beauty and accept imperfections regardless of your size! Many women I see posting photos which they hash tag and spell out as body positive are actually just bashing a body type other than their own.
I have gone from being a size 8-9 to a size 00 in the past two years, I am 5’1’+ so the transformation is dramatic!! I understand what it is like to be on both opposite ends of the spectrum. I made decisions about my body that make me happy! I may be considered skinny but in no way does that make me not a “real woman” or “anorexic”. My body is a temple, I respect it. I love the skin I wear, I like my scars, I like my waist, my hips, and my tummy the way they are! I too am body positive.
I really suggest that when you see “fat shaming” or “skinny shaming” that you call out the perpetrator(s.) Let your voice be heard! All women deserve to feel confident and worthy of respect and love. May I humbly suggest that if you are guilty of either egregious crime, forgive yourself and never allow words that could potentially trigger or harm someone! Everyone knows how it feels to be a victim of body shaming comments and no one deserves them.
– stay postive and love your body in every way!
-mdm